All that crap about people going gently into that good night, or facing death with dignity? What a lot of crap, when someone still had so much ahead of them to do.>>

Which is the point of the famous Dylan Thomas poem, actually.

Speaking from experience I know how awful it is to watch somebody have a long slow death and it's not an experience I'd wish on another. I'm grieved that you, sis_r, and dad_r are suffering so much right now.

I can't think of any graceful words of comfort, so I'll leave you with the been there done that truth: the only way out is through.

We're here for you.