Ugh. I'm sorry the recent metawankwarwhatever has been dredging up stuff that's making fandom less fun for you. It really has gotten unpleasant in a couple of places, and the fanlore thing is appalling.

I really value you being here, however you want that to look. I'm glad we're friends.

The romance stuff sounds relentless, jeeze. I hope your company can put you on some better books.