So, there's that

[gwyn]

Things with Dad are pretty bad. His tremors are really bad, and he's been angry and abusive to the nurses and me when he wakes up, because he's disoriented and confused. He wouldn't let me feed him the oatmeal they brought, so he burned his chest when he slopped it all over himself. I mean an actual burn. He's in constant pain, so he's just mean, and they had to tie his hands down to keep him from pulling everything out, and then he became abusive to all of us about that.

I'm out in the hall, listening to a family who just lost their dad try to call folks. I am so far past misery I don't even care that I'm in pain myself and feel like the progress I've made on my back is now all gone. This is feeling so much like my mom and my sister. I don't think he's going to get better, and am pretty sure it's going downhill from here.

I hope I can at least read my story and give feedback to my author tomorrow. Yuletide author, if you read this, I hope I won't neglect you, but just in case, thank you ahead of time for giving me something to look forward to right now.

Comments

[klia]

I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could do.

*hugs*

[the_shoshanna]

I'm holding you and your dad in my thoughts.

[minim_calibre]

I am sorry, and I hope so very much for you that his condition improves.

Do you need anything right now? Errands run over the next week? Random cookie drops?

[catwalksalone]

I am thinking of you both.

Without wishing to be grandma-suck-eggy, has he been checked for UTIs?The symptoms can be very strange including confusion and aggression and they are often missd in elderly folk for some reason.

*offers hugs if they are of even the slightest use*

[batdina]

so deeply sorry and wishing there was more that I could do than hold you both in my thoughts. if you think of something we can do at this distance, please don't hesitate to let us know.

take care you, and many hugs.

[kass]

Oh, honey, I am so sorry to hear this. I wish there were anything I could do. Please know that I am keeping you and your dad in my thoughts and prayers. I am sending love your way.

[umbo]

*tons of hugs*

[thefourthvine]

I'm so sorry.

*hugs and hugs*

[cereta]

Thinking of you and your dad.

[adair]

I am thinking of you both - I wish I was not half a continent away.

[twistedchick]

I'm sorry this is happening with you and yours; I've been there and it's not pleasant. ::hugs, scotch, whatever it takes to help::

[morgandawn]

Hugs to you. When my mom has her subdural hemotoma (and subsequent brain surgery) she was very confused and combative. While knowing that this was due to the brain didn't ease the pain, knowing that this was something she couldn't control helped me do what was needed at the time.

[par_avion]

I'm so sorry, hon. ♥ I wish I were closer, you will be in my thoughts.

[dorinda]

I was traveling, and only today did I hear about your dad (via elynross)! I'm very sorry, and offer many hugs from the hinterlands. It's such a horrible vicious circle--pain and distress causing agitation, agitation keeping the pain and distress going, never quite able to get rest and surcease. I do hope for the best, and I am thinking of you.

[abbylee]

*hugs* I'm thinking of you and sharing my love.

[sakana17]

I'm so sorry to hear this. It's so incredibly hard, and happening over the holidays just adds to the crap. I can only offer virtual *hugs* and hope for the best for you.

[cattraine.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

[nagasvoice.livejournal.com]

Yes, *hugs*.
Best of luck on your dad's condition improving.
Sounds like they need a neurologist in there, if they haven't already got some.
And Yuletide! --oh yes, thank goodness for things that give you a little break sometimes!

[kerithwyn.livejournal.com]

So, so sorry to hear about this. Thinking of you and your dad and wishing for the best.

If you need anything, even if you just want someone to come and sit with you a bit at the hospital, please let me know.

[glinda-w.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. GoodThoughts continuing, candle lit.

[deejay.livejournal.com]

*hugs ya hard*

[leela-cat.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. This just sounds heartbreaking for you, no matter what time of year.

There's so little we can do from here, but if there is anything, PM me or email me.

Much love.

[mackiemesser.livejournal.com]

I'm really, really sorry to hear that.

[fishsanwitt]

::gentle hugs::

[ann1962]

I'm very sorry for what you all are going through. Hugs and good thoughts for you all.

[fan-eunice.livejournal.com]

*hugs you lots*

[anoel.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I hope things get better.

[jarrow.livejournal.com]

*hugs hugs hugs* I am so, so sorry that this is happening, and at the holidays no less. Keep us posted and know that we're all thinking about you.

[viverra-libro.livejournal.com]

Oh, Gwyn, how awful. Here's hoping this is all just due to the bump on the head, and he'll be fine in a few days. I'm so sorry, sweetheart; you don't deserve to go through this after everything else you've been through. *hugshugs*

[queenofattolia.livejournal.com]

Oh my dear, I'm so sorry. Please try to give yourself a break, and I mean a literal break, and not just going to the hospital cafeteria. I know from experience that that sometimes means getting in the car and driving around the block, or going to the coffee shop (or even McDonald's) down the street and having a cup of tea, or even just taking the time to take a painkiller and sitting still for at least an hour.

I know you feel helpless and want to be there, but the nurses are doing all they can for your dad and there's no point in driving yourself to exhaustion.

Read your story if it helps. Do all you can for your dad, but please take care of yourself.

[emmarytz.livejournal.com]

Oy. More than sucks. I echo the earlier comments that suggest taking a break (I'd recommend a short walk for fresh air) and I am lighting a candle for a speedy and complete recovery for your Dad. -em.

[sobelle.livejournal.com]

All I can do is send hope that there is a cease in the agony...

His of course, but yours especially.

Much love to you.

[greenpear.livejournal.com]

It's never a good time for something like this. I send my condolances as I've been through something like this myself.

Take Care...

[gamiila.livejournal.com]

My heart goes out to you. Your dad's in pain and confused, so I wouldn't worry too much about any hurtful things he might say. All you can do is be there for him, but please don't forget to take care of yourself as well.

[batwrangler.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[mockerbee.livejournal.com]

Please know that I'm thinking about you and your father today. Take care of yourself. HUGS

[dine.livejournal.com]

been away from a computer, but I'm sorry to respond so late. I hope that things have improved for you a bit - you're on my mind! *hugs*

[vchrusch.livejournal.com]

So sorry to hear about this.