Enough about me

[gwyn]

Interviews seem to be going around on my friends list, at least with the Buffy folks. No idea how it got started or where, and i wonder about it... would I want to be interviewed? Of course, that begs the question: if you offered yourself up for one, then what if no one wanted to interview you? People may not know you well enough or care... so then you can get major egg all over your face. It could be fraught with danger, I tell you! It seems participatory, which I'm trying to do instead of being distanced with just the reviews and essays, yet... too personal gets at things I object to in journalling because I'm weirdly private about a lot of things. Private in a psycho way, I mean. And are people only doing it to their real friends? I don't know that I'm at that level of friendship... dear god, it's a minefield! And do the people I want to interview, the ones who haven't been yet, want to be interviewed themselves? It's so complicated, I think I'll go to bed instead.

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[onetwomany.livejournal.com]

Oh, oh! If this is an offer, I'll interview you. I promise not to be too stalkery! If you give he okay, I'll email you questions.

[gwyn-r.livejournal.com]

I'm with the trepidation, but okay... why not? I keep promising myself to step outside my box. I felt like just concentrating on reviews was a good thing, but there's nothing much to review these days! So... hands over eyes.

And I could interview you in return?

[dragolyn.livejournal.com]

Couple of things... the key to interview questions is to make ones that can be answered seriously or frivilously (or sarcastically, LOL). That way it's up to whoever's answering them.

And it can't hurt to ask, right? I mean, no egg in anyone's face. This is the Internet, it's all anonymous anyways, at least until a point.

I'll interview you if you want. Or you can interview me. Or not. Or either. Or none. LOL- doesn't matter much. It's just another meme. Not much thought involved.

And I'll email you soon, would love to get together (and have it work out this time, LOL).

[gwyn-r.livejournal.com]

I liked the questions you asked Ali. I'm so glad to know that other people share my "huh?" feelings, so I'll give it the old college try (she said behind her fingers, peeking out).

I hereby open myself up to interviews. And I'd love to send you five questions if you're up to it. Thtat way we'll have something to talk about when we get together!

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[dragolyn.livejournal.com]

LOL- ask away! I'm game.

I love your icon. Cancellation angst. LOL.

Your questions- and feel free to answer them however you want, I'm trying to leave them open enough to be answered in depth or not, depending on your comfort level. There are no rules here, LOL. Do whatever you want. :)

1. What draws you to be involved in fandom stuff? Not just Buffy but in general. What is it about being a critical fan that appeals to you?

2. What do you like best about where you live? Is it where you want to be, is it home to you? Or are there other places you'd like to try?

3. I think that your writing is very bold. You don't pull your punches or seem to get shy about writing what you write. Is that ever a struggle?

4. Who do you love? And what do you love?

5. If you scripted the perfect day for yourself, morning to night, and could include anything and everything, what would you write?

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[dragolyn.livejournal.com]

LOL- ask away! I'm game.

I love your icon. Cancellation angst. LOL.

Your questions- and feel free to answer them however you want, I'm trying to leave them open enough to be answered in depth or not, depending on your comfort level. There are no rules here, LOL. Do whatever you want. :)

1. What draws you to be involved in fandom stuff? Not just Buffy but in general. What is it about being a critical fan that appeals to you?

2. What do you like best about where you live? Is it where you want to be, is it home to you? Or are there other places you'd like to try?

3. I think that your writing is very bold. You don't pull your punches or seem to get shy about writing what you write. Is that ever a struggle?

4. Who do you love? And what do you love?

5. If you scripted the perfect day for yourself, morning to night, and could include anything and everything, what would you write?

[superplin.livejournal.com]

Hah, I could have written this same paragraph, word for word (well, okay, probably not as lyrically). It seems as though everyone, somehow, just intrinsically knows how this stuff works, and I never get the memo.
Or I get it, but am never sure if I've understood it correctly.
Or I'm pretty sure I've understood it, but I'm not sure if I'm actually invited. Or even necessarily want to be invited. Or I want to be invited, sure, but maybe I don't actually want to play, I just want the validation of the invitation. Or knowing I could be invited if I wanted to.

Etc. and 'round again. It really is complicated.

[onetwomany.livejournal.com]

It seems as though everyone, somehow, just intrinsically knows how this stuff works, and I never get the memo.

Jokiness and eagerness to interview people aside, I can totally understand where you and Gwyn are coming from. It is hard to work out what’s going on sometimes, especially if you want to be ‘polite’ about it and play by the proper rules – or such rules as there are in the wilds of cyberspace.

For what it’s worth, I never get the memo either. I’m not sure if there actually are any, beyond word of mouth or text of LJ. But if I’m interested in doing something I’ll just jump on in. Or I’ll backtrack through journals until I find the original post and pick up on the rules. Usually the prior, though, because I have no sense of decency ;-)

Or I'm pretty sure I've understood it, but I'm not sure if I'm actually invited. Or even necessarily want to be invited. Or I want to be invited, sure, but maybe I don't actually want to play, I just want the validation of the invitation. Or knowing I could be invited if I wanted to.

As far as I can tell, with the interview meme, you basically have to ask to be interviewed. So it comes down not to having plenty of friends who’ll invite you, but rather to having sufficient confidence in yourself to believe that someone would be interested in interviewing you. Which I guess makes it that little bit more terrifying! Certainly too terrifying for me. But ask to be interviewed and people dozens of folks like me, who would love to play amateur interrogator journalist, will jump at the opportunity to interview you!

[rashaka.livejournal.com]

For what it’s worth, I never get the memo either. I’m not sure if there actually are any, beyond word of mouth or text of LJ. But if I’m interested in doing something I’ll just jump on in. Or I’ll backtrack through journals until I find the original post and pick up on the rules. Usually the prior, though, because I have no sense of decency ;-)

I'm never invited unless I invite myself either. Sometimes I'm too lazy to backtrack, and just ask the first person I see about it if I can't figure it out myself. I've been pondering the interview thing all this evening, as Gwyn will infer from my weird comment below.

[gwyn-r.livejournal.com]

I'm SO glad to know others react this way. I always felt weird about memes, really, because I felt like you had to have some kind of... okay, I know this is stupid, but *status* to do them. Like, you had to believe anyone was interested in your response to the meme, and I never felt like I would provoke that interest. It's one of the main reasons I stayed safely and securely behind my curtain of "not a personal journal."

Wanna be interviewed?

[superplin.livejournal.com]

I always felt weird about memes, really, because I felt like you had to have some kind of... okay, I know this is stupid, but *status* to do them. Like, you had to believe anyone was interested in your response to the meme, and I never felt like I would provoke that interest.

Yes! That's exactly it.
Which is kind of funny, since I've had a "real" (as in personal) online journal elsewhere for over 5 years now, so you'd think I'd be over the whole thing by now. (Of course, said journal hasn't been updated since November, so maybe this "phase" is affecting me more than I realized.)
LJ feels very different to me, though.

Wanna be interviewed?
Um... sure, why not?
::pretends nonchalance::

[rashaka.livejournal.com]

Everything you just said was exactly what I was asking myself as I looked at people'se journals tonight. I contemplated posting about it on my journal, asking a big:

"What is all this and how come nobody told me? Am I not 'in' enough to be told? Oh god, what if I'm not in?! I want to be in, I thought I might be in with at least a few people... I must not be, or someone would have mentioned it to me, right? GAD! I'm out! I'm an out person! I was never really in in the first place and was just deluding myself! That's it, this is too painful, I'm not gonna mention it at all! I'll just act like I'm in and I won't know the difference..."

[gwyn-r.livejournal.com]

ROTFL!! I know, sometimes it's just easier to hide. Letting yourself be seen opens up big cans of worms. But it also seems like so many people have so much fun, too. Maybe that's why I angst over it -- I wanna have fun, too!

[rashaka.livejournal.com]

Yeah, you wanna have fun. LJ's all about the fun, at least, ideally. :)

[bientot.livejournal.com]

A bunch of my friends were doing this a month or so ago, and I found myself thinking, Well, if they asked me, how honest would I want to be in such a public place? And if I were not going to be honest, could I be clever enough to carry it off? What if they didn't ask? What if they asked, but didn't ask the right questions? So I just sort of read other people's interviews and skived off.

[gwyn-r.livejournal.com]

Honestly and cleverness - yeah. BIG issues. But hon, you're always clever, especially online. Your responses to things would be fun to read, and you've led such a fascinating life!

[sweet-ali.livejournal.com]

Dunno really why it's all the rage right now. It's kinda like a reverse meme. But hey, it's a good ol' time waster, so... Want me to interview you? Want to interview me? It's an open arena, my dear:)